Tuesday, July 11, 2017

Beginner's Guide to Joyful Living -- Day 11

At some point in your life, you may have put on your favorite striped outfit and asked a quintessential question: "Does this dress make me look fat?" The question beneath the question is, "Do I look ugly, self-indulgent, or weak? Am I giving off vibes of a woman who is splitting apart at the seams?"
The need for approval is human, but it's not helpful. It's baggage.

We all know what weighs us down. Fear, guilt, envy, ego, perfectionism (to name a few). Other burdens aren't easily defined. Insecurity, unrealistic goals, brutal self-criticism. Happiness may be elusive. We may feel dissatisfied, that our best is never good enough. 

 Through love and mercy, we willingly shoulder other people's burdens. Sometimes we must lighten the load or we'll go under.


Our baggage may be steeped in denial. We may wear that striped dress even though it's so tight, we can't breathe. Maybe if we lose weight, the striped dress will fit. We push and shove with dogged determination, when the answer may be another dress.
We do the same thing with goals that no longer fit our lives. What worked at age forty may not work at sixty.

Before we can dump baggage, we must acknowledge that it exists. 
We have to name a thing to make it real. Even then, it can be hard to let go. Have you ever seen a worn leather handle on a beloved suitcase? We can become attached to the very thing we must release.


Today I will drop one piece of baggage, and one of these days, I will fly.

19 comments:

  1. Beautifully written and will cause me to think hard on it today. Thank you for this lovely post.

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  2. love the photos you choose to go with your wise words today~

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    1. I am having fun with the images.πŸ˜€

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  3. Still loving this series. So inspiring!

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  4. Your metaphors are powerful. They are the language of experience. Yes, many times we're more preoccupied with how we appear to others rather than who we really are. Denial is a damaging dimension and creates isolation. Acknowledgement is key; it helps us process and own our truths. When we drop the baggage we give up the need to control. It reframes our perspective and puts us in a more resourceful state. Joy is found in the spirit!

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  5. For me, this post was your most powerful. Great series! ;)

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  6. Thanks to everyone who has read the challenge so far and for taking time out of a busy day to comment. πŸŒΈπŸŒΊπŸ’•

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  7. You have no idea what a blessing this series has been to me. I wish you could print the whole thing out when it's finished and produce a book we could hold in our hands to keep.

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    1. Oh, thank you, Dewena. Your words are a blessing.

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  8. Charulie@msn.comJuly 12, 2017 at 5:31 PM

    Best one yet!! Thank you!

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  9. Yes, I like the idea of having these posts published as a book. I find myself going back and reading them in sequence. Thank you for this series! Well done!

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